It is true we have a grass-is-always-greener attitude when it comes to dating. How many times has a perfectly happily married couple split-up thinking there had to be something better out there? How often will a man or woman not commit because they believe someone better than their current partner is just round the bend. And how often does a single guy or girl get into some sort of a potential relationship situation that might actually be a top dating situation and they all but sabotage the budding partnership and a possible real chance at something that might last?
Coddling an inherent need to keep searching, to always strive for best, to look for perfection is a good motivator, but it can work against us when dating. Everyone needs to define what top dating is for them personally, but once we reach it or are tickling the possibility to then we should check our surroundings as well as our hearts, take a deep breath and realize not only that this might be the best we are ever going to have but that this best might be very damn good after all! We need to consider very hard that the person we have met might just enrich our life more than they could ever undermine it and that the summit we have reached is about the top for us.
But we always have to poke the scab, we always have to test limits and we always err on the side of the dissatisfied even when we are anything but simply because it is in our nature to be inquisitive…but often to the point of distraction. What we need do is quiet that inner anticipation and assumption that the grass is always greener, when there might not even any grass at all or it might simply be just as hard to cut as the grass we now deal with! We might very well be at the very top dating we will ever be lucky enough to reach and we should enjoy the view and not keep trying for a better one