After all the online dating and weeding through profile after profile, he’s finally found someone he really likes quite a bit. They had their first coffee date, and it want great. The conversation was interesting and fun and now it’s time for a real first date. The meal was great, but she was better – she was funny and interesting, the conversation flowed easily, the flirting was hot and heavy. At the end of the night, he walks her to her car and he goes in for the kiss. She kisses back and the making out begins in earnest. They both want more, but something holds her back.
Men often wonder why women stop themselves from doing what they really want to do sexually. While it is 2012 and attitudes have changed quite a bit about sex, three are still double standards that women are concerned about. As far as we’ve come with equality and sexual freedom, there are still a lot of heterosexual men out there who will try to get lucky on the first date then harshly judge the woman who says yes, and women know this only too well. Sometimes it’s not a conscious judgment, but suddenly that woman he was so into the night before seems less interesting in the light of day. It seems that many men don’t even realize that they’re doing it, but many, many men still consider the woman to be a slut if she puts out on the first date.
It shouldn’t be a surprise that the double standard still exists. In all the books and online lists of dating rules on online dating sites for women, one of the rules is always don’t have sex until X date if you want him to keep seeing you. On matchmaking television shows, that appears to be a standard rule. These rules would not still exist if the double standard didn’t still exist. Things are getting better, but we still have a ways to go to full sexual freedom for women.