When I decided to try internet dating a few years ago, I had to ask myself what it was that I was looking for. And what I was looking for changed over the years. For the most effective experience online dating, you have to be honest – not only to others, but with yourself as well.
When I first started looking for dates online, I had just broken up with my girlfriend. Well, to be honest, she dumped me like a bag of babyshit in the garbage. Miss ya, Christie! So the frame of mind I found myself in was that of a playa. By that, I mean all I wanted to do was date as many women as I could, and all at once.
This was great for a while. No strings-attached relationships were what I needed. And by dating a lot of women, it reminded me that there are plenty of fish out there, and they’re not all psychos. Miss ya, Christie!
After a while, I realized that I wanted to focus on having a monogamous relationship, although I wasn’t looking for marriage right away. So, I changed my profile on the dating site, and began seeing one woman exclusively. This too was awesome. She and I dated for about a year, but it ended when she was eaten by a shark while we were surfing in Hawaii.
By then I knew i wanted to be headed for marriage. So I once again changed my profile to let women know that I am marriage minded. And now when I contact women, I make sure they want the same direction. This honest has saved me lots of headaches.
So my message is this: tell the people you meet online dating what you’re really after. Honesty is the best policy!