What counts as romance to one person is mundane to another. We have dating sites pointing us in the direction of what some other person’s view of what love and adoration is and how much we should pay for it, but really like a definition of kinky, romance is in the eye of the beholder.
This is really what makes dating so exciting, not only finding our own definitions of all aspects of love and intimacy but seeing if and how they coincide with someone else’s. This is why one person can try and be as heartfelt in a personal or across an online personal but only touch a small fraction of a population and why a simple red rose works wonders for some women, while some men see the gift of a fishing rod and reel as the most romantic gift their partner could ever give them.
And some couples do not need even a hint of romance between them, while others only ever want soft touches, sepia-toned wedding pictures and rose pedals on the bed covers.
As we can find the naughty in just about anything, so too can we find the sweet. This is why there really are so many avenues available for us to date these days, to find love as well as sex and why the business of singles looking for other singles took off so well on the net; all the various romantic touchstones can be displayed across millions of sites and daters can take their pick which works for them, brings them warmth and makes them feel like looking for a partner.
Critics of online dating will continue to argue that computers, chatting and even camming kill the romance in our lives but we are learning how to live well with fitting romance in with our online life. It’s simply a different way of looking at the hearts and flowers we all liked before, but romance exists if we want and will remain online and off.