We all know about personals, the brief dating ad come-ons that are written to give only a few hints about the writer so the reader will want to find out more. From newspapers to online the actual personal hasn’t changed that much, and you’d have thought through years of conditioning daters would have learned then how to use them, but still there are people playing hard-to-get in online personals, being coy, firing-up their sassiness when we all know, or should pretty much sense, that language of a less then definite nature, or words that require the inflection of the speakers voice to truly make a sardonic or sexy point, will not come across if they are just read.
But people refuse to accept the tried and truisms of personals from before because now they are using online personals. The assumption simply is that since we are posting online and all things online have a shelf-life of one day maximum and that all responses to anything posted online is instantaneous, the writer of the online personal can simply post a new personal at his or her whim and what they say, if even taken incorrectly or falling on deaf ears shan’t make all that much of a difference.
But the truth is that no matter if what you put out there you only put out there for a brief second and your of a mind to change your online personal again and again, and even if you are playing-hard-to-get or are leading with your particular brand of humor, online personals to have an effect and they do make a difference and they are read by people who are making judgments from that personal if they want to date you or not.
The simple fact of the matter is, that yes we don’t have a lot of time online and yes things move quicker and in the digital world we have less of a chance to make a good first impression. We shouldn’t waste it by creating obtuse, overly sexy or just badly written online personals.