So, you are a hot unattached person looking to conduct a singles search on the wacky world wide web. If you have never done such a thing before, it can seem daunting at first, much like any other new endeavor. You will likely be nervous and more than a bit cautious about what you put out there about yourself. And this is a good thing. Too many people dive into these things with a too cocky or naive attitude. Some would say stupid. When you join any of these sites, your face and words are now out there in the ether for everyone to see for years to come. You may be anxious, but it pays to do a little homework before you cause some permanent harm to your reputation. And after you devote a decent amount of time to yourself, you need to devote an equal amount of time to investigating anyone that you are interested in meeting.
The personals are undoubtedly a way to meet, hook up with, and discard some lovely play pals. The use of online dating has skyrocketed and the results are crystal clear. More and more people are using online dating sites and adult personals to find that special someone.
Thank goodness for online dating, because single men still have no idea where to find all the single women in real life. Sure, one could go to a bar or club and meet women, but it’s not as easy as it sounds. In bars, women tend to travel in packs, the music is often too loud to talk, and let’s face it we have all had bad experiences with some potential bunny boiler that we picked up while drunk at a club.
After all the online dating and weeding through profile after profile, he’s finally found someone he really likes quite a bit. They had their first coffee date, and it want great. The conversation was interesting and fun and now it’s time for a real first date. The meal was great, but she was better – she was funny and interesting, the conversation flowed easily, the flirting was hot and heavy. At the end of the night, he walks her to her car and he goes in for the kiss. She kisses back and the making out begins in earnest. They both want more, but something holds her back.
All the online dating work has been done – a well written profile, nice photos, first contact, interesting e-mails back and forth, and a successful move to the telephone. After several phone calls, both still seem funny, smart, sexy so it’s now time to plan the first meeting.
We all know about personals, the brief dating ad come-ons that are written to give only a few hints about the writer so the reader will want to find out more. From newspapers to online the actual personal hasn’t changed that much, and you’d have thought through years of conditioning daters would have learned then how to use them, but still there are people playing hard-to-get in online personals, being coy, firing-up their sassiness when we all know, or should pretty much sense, that language of a less then definite nature, or words that require the inflection of the speakers voice to truly make a sardonic or sexy point, will not come across if they are just read.
We’re all answering enough questions during the day about the most mundane aspects of our lives, the last thing anyone of us want to do is answer more, especially those pointed one’s burrowing deep into our business puked by jealous hubbies or girlfriends trying to find out where we are 24/7! Frequently Asked Questions should be on websites, not in our lives. If you even think you want to keep a dating situation going with your man or have that woman want to see you again, best leave your suspicions and the sneaky way you ask then, to yourself! Continue reading →
Because they are for many single people the opening salvo to online dating or our first real entrée for finding a social life, obsession with personals, or at very least an overly keen interest in them is where madness can start. For writers we can become obsessed with getting every single word correct, fret over where to post the personal and then when we do check them constantly-to not do much more then re-read what we wrote-and basically pen more and more personals and tweak, re-post and fret some more.
How we find, keep in touch with, maintain and even break-off friendships that have changed so much in the past decade of the net. More than ever before we are all courting casual acquaintances, increasing the scope of our social world and meeting people from all over.
Some of these people we chat with nightly, keeping-up with their lives as they do with ours; in reality they become our modern day pen pal. In others we built a whole new intimacy, one that has only the bounds of the world-wide-web to keep it and we enjoy mutual chatting that leads to just as mutual masturbation. And as we seem to be growing ever more adept at, we also see the mixing of friends as lovers strictly online because we know we will never meet these pen pals. Continue reading →
Really, we can use a person and they us in a good way…in all ways. Xxx dating is all about finding a partner who we only just really want to fuck and they us. And while not the way everyone should and could date, Xxx fucking works for so much of the population there are parties and online social portals and dating sites devoted to it. No-one who is Xxx dating feels used, and if they do, they shouldn’t be Xxx dating in the first place.